Trust the noun is not a condom... Fact. The reality is trust the noun is a major leverage in determining whether a condom will be part of bedroom entertainment. If I trust you we might as well ditch the condom and wear trust (the noun) instead. It's funny how talking about this sends chills down my spine maybe because I have been a victim ; maybe not once, nor twice... so I'm certainly not one to cast the first stone.
The other day I engaged in healthy discourse with one of my many male friends and he told me he can easily tell if one is on the negative or positive boat just by looking. Hmm... how damn I thought. Then it hit me. Isn't that the criteria we all use when picking out a clean partner when we want to engage in trustful sex? I mean, all we do is ask.. 'Are you clean?' 'Did you test? If the answer is yes to both questions then we are all guns and ready to fire.. When it's all said and done the post mortem sets in. It comes bearing guilt, anxiety and worry. As a means of shelving our distress we result to using self made eye testing services to analyse if the person was clean or not. Then we slowly paddle towards the island of false consolation gauging by their body shape, size and physique.
The sad reality is you can't know if someone is clean or not just by looking at them. Then again when someone tells you they tested, that have not fully answered the question. We jump into conclusions and automatically assume they are clean. Which is not always the case. At least seek clarity before hand then make you're decision based on that. Equally bare in mind someone could easily lie...
Truth be told there's some level of bull crap I cant stand.Every time I hear someone say they are allergic to condoms I roll my eyes and think REALLY?? Sex is sex. Without or without the condom. The feeling is constant and the action is the same. Only difference is with proper condom usage you are 99% assured of a risk free sex life. All you have to do is buy the correct condom size and you are good to go. Regardless of price. It doesn't mean the expensive the better. LATEX IS LATEX. period. So stop selling the condom allergy crap cause we ain't buying it!!
I spotted a billboard in Uganda and it read 'Have you taken the love test' Then I thought what test? It went ahead to state 'Test for HIV and put your love to the test' How many of us test regularly? Whether we are in a committed relationship or not. Whether we indulge in reckless sex or not. Whether we are some one's side dish or not.. Whether we are in a long distance relationship or not. Whether we trust each other or not. Most importantly whether we know each others HIV status or not.
So the next time you are about to engage in unprotected sex with someone ask the billboard question... 'Have we put our love/lust to the test?' Regardless of whether you and your partner have been together before Christ. For my married friends you are equally not exempted from this. If anything HIV /AIDS infections are highest among married couples. Always test as often as you can and those of you who enjoy playing away games kindly use a condom.
When you think of indulging in 'trusted' unprotected sex put up a sticker note, a phone reminder, or anything that will remind you that trust the noun was never, is never and will never be a condom.
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